Of the hundreds of relationships you participate in throughout the course of your roller coaster life — associations of all kind: good/bad, joyful/sad, casual/serious, friendly/hostile, short/long, romantic/heartbreaking and everything in between, there’s always ONE relationship that harrows you like an old wound that refuses to heal. It haunts your mind, frequents your thoughts — maybe because you let it, maybe because you’re reluctant to fight a losing battle when your emotions are swinging like saloon doors on rusty hinges. You live, you breathe, you dream, you repeat — but such austere malady won’t go away and your heart and resolve commit to a constant tug of war, each pulling on one end of your instincts. So you might as well diagnose yourself a royal schizophrenic! Wrestling with your emotions over the dream of someone who still claims so much of your sentiment but is no longer there… well isn’t that lovely.
And so you sit and think.
But you CAN’T think about things like this so you distract yourself!
And it actually works.
Wow, I feel better already.
Goodbye now to the breakdown between thought, emotion and behavior. Farewell to faulty perception and inapt actions and feelings. Goodbye to withdrawal from reality and personal relationships into fantasy and delusion. Good riddance to an overwhelming sense of mental fragmentation!
Life is way too short to worry about the past, and I for one, don’t have time for anxiety.
If you need me, I’ll be in my fuzzy turtleneck with a bowl of cereal staring out the kitchen window. I like the way the rain sounds against these old bay windows.
Aw Adam! I hope that by you writing this, the memories and thoughts haunt you less and you find peace. Even when you write about difficult times, you never fail to write it in such a beautiful way and touch people as I’m sure many of us can relate to something like this…it happens to us all!
God bless
Ruth
I know what you mean bro
Adam! God knows the best for us. “Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.” ~ Isaiah 43:18 … Always stay happy! (^_^) XOXO
Last weekend my friend and I spent a whole night talking about those relationships! I came to the conclusion that you may accept that it’s over, but you will never forget it!! So as you say, it haunts our thoughts and never leave us alone… Anyway, finding something to distruct us (like reading a beautiful post every monday) helps a lot :)
hugs from south, south, south
Thanks Adam, you always seem to know the smart thing to do! :D Hey! you should read my message on Facebook, It would be soo amazing :)
Last night I was reading in the Bible Philippians 3. I feel like it might help you;
12 Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.
What jewels the LORD had given us. I’m so happy He gave us His word.
Encouragement from your sister in Christ,
Grace
i love when people talked about relationships. especially on how to move on and get over something. you’re right dude, life is way too short to worry about the past. i guess we just have to move on, and enjoy our life to the fullest.
wow, quite a relieve ! i am now too, have the exact some thought with u..
‘life is way too short to worry about the past, and i for one dont wanna have time for anxiety’
genius as always adam, i just really cant wait to watch ur show in Jakarta-Indonesia on Oct 29th :)
aww….
I can’t help but always feel this way, although I’ve never been in a serious long-term relationship. :) Feel better!
I was waiting for this.
Can’t help but feel like we’ve been talking… Just posted on my own blog about this same thing. It hurts, but you can’t just wallow in the pain. I needed this today. Thank you so much.
Big Bear Hugs,
-Stephanie
Feel better, and keep living for Christ, my friend. =)
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows. If we are distressed, it is for your comfort and salvation; if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which produces in you patient endurance of the same sufferings we suffer. And our hope for you is firm, because we know that just as you share in our sufferings, so also you share in our comfort.” ~ 2 Corinthians 1:3-7
We all go through that. Our past is one of Satan’s main weapons against us. But we have a promise that all things work together for good to them that love God and to them who are the called according to his purpose. I’m sure you must Love Him, and all of His are called to surve Him.
I hope you really will give it all, the past the present and the bright future to God. I hope I do as well.
I also hope you got my letter, because I think you needed to read it.
Have a wonderful continue to your journey!
Hope you find someone you will love until the end<3
What am I saying? Of course you will :)
Oh, how I wish it was me :/
Our senior pastor once said that thoughts and feelings that are not dealt with properly can become like a stuck record needle: just grinding away in the same groove until it becomes so deep that it can’t move. Only a concerted effort can get us out of that rut and moving along the rest of the recording. It is often easier to stay in that groove but by putting in the herculean effort of leaving it you get to hear the rest of the beautiful music. :)
Thanks for the encouraging thoughts. “Who really needs the past with the allure of something new?”
oh man, i feel the same. :’)
You are such a great guy and you deserve all the blessings in the world… Yeah, Adam let optimism shine upon you!
I am always praying for your success before I sleep… I will be doing this forever.
You totally deserve all the love and support of your fans, we HOOT OWLS.
I love you Adam.
Wow, i can’t stress how timely this is! Actually, almost everything that you post speak to me as well. I just got back from a looong roadtrip, which means that i was stuck with just my thoughts of this ONE relationship. It was torturous! It made me realize though to just focus on something else other than that — and what better to focus on other than the Lover of my Soul? Philippians 4:4-9 ^_^
Thanks so much, Adam. This made me smile loudly.
Like this! —> :DDDD
>Hugs< to you from Manila and see you here next month!!
HURRAY! Can join you in my striped turtleneck with a bowl of captain crunch? I’m just so happy I wanna make you a CAKE or something!
BUT,I have a little advice: even though its chick flickish,judge a girl on her personality rather than her blondeness. For some reason,the blonde girls you’re after are usually the diva types. NORMAL blonde women are really nice! I know a few!
and also,to completely forget,stop playing Lonely Lullaby at every show. I mean,jeez that’s a whopper right there every night! Still…I’m really happy for you and I hope you get married within the next 2 years.
P.S. Can I come to the wedding?
Nice to see you back!
I feel the rushing need of getting married with you :)
Dear Adam,
This is really so sweet, and though I know it hurts, you will grow through this if you give God control over it. He turns hurt into beauty.
He loves you so very dearly, Adam, just take His love and blessings and run with them, you are so gifted and I know you can go farther than you ever dreamed.
Trust in HIM, Adam.
Stay encouraged,
Madeline <3
In the end, a deeper love will cure that gapping hole in your heart.
I’ve been called a romantic at least 4 odd times in the last few weeks and I have been fighting it a little. But now that I realize it is exactly who I am, I won’t fight it. I have to believe that someday he will come and sweep me off to a place with lots of green and blue. :)
I hope that your wounds heal up nicely and that they don’t leave monstrous scars. … and I hope that the next person to join you in watching the rain fall will deserve every bit of the love you have to give.
I appreciate your honesty. :)
A
I got out of my relationship a few months ago, and there have been times when the good and the bad times have festered on my mind for a few hours or even days at a time. Reading your blog made me smile because what you say is true: there is always sunshine after the rain, and one does not do well to dwell on the past. Live life for the future, and in the end, above all, there is always love :)
See you in concert in November :) With love from Virginia Beach! xoxo <3
This entry gave me goosebumps because it’s simply beautiful in its truth, and of course it’s amazingly well written. Your blogs, your music seriously help people to remember they are not alone, so thank you so much for writing these. You are such an incredible writer and musician.
Well, that’s life. It is always better to tastes pain from love. It defines you of being who you are and makes you mature in such way.
Adam, I’ve been thinking the same things lately. Thanks for the thoughts and encouragement. I needed it.
(Don’t forget your ski cap.)
The part that hurts the most is when everyone else is all about how amazing life is, “the sun is shining brighter than ever ” etc, when you’re down there, on rock bottom. It makes you feel all alone and the depression only gets worse. This is were you come in. Your lyrics (and pretty much your whole human being) cheers me up, make me belive that it will get better. The line “Depression please cut to the chase, and cut a long story short” has been haunting me for months, not without reason. Every night I lie awake thinking, hoping and praying that things will get better. I really hope that one day I get to meet and talk to you, you deserve to hear how much you have changed and improved my life, I honestly wouldn’t have made it without the help of you and God.
Thank you for helping me, making life easier and worth living :)
Except when you find yourself not distracted, you can feel the heartache like crazy. It feels like your heart is being slowly ripped apart. And everyday your haunted by a ghost. The ghost of them. The ghost of “what if”. And you know God has a plan for your life, but it’s scary not knowing what it is at times.
Beautifully expressed, Adam.
Learn from the past, but don’t live in it. Enjoy the present and look with hope and joy towards the future, my friend.
God’s tender blessings to you,
Pam
aahhaayyy!! yeay! finally,i’m very glad to see you like this, now your smile is a real smile :) . Love you :*
Thank you so much!!
You just discribed my life..
Wow, I don’t know what to say..
I started to cry when I start reading it, I still do.
I could have read it over and over.
If God told you to write this, because there was a some person that needed to hear it, that person was me. (Or maybe just one of them)
Anyway, I feel so much better now!
Thank you x10000! <3
I love you <3
Jesus loves you <3
You just made a girl.. from going to feel like everything in this world is against her – to feel that this is a good start for an everlasting adventure before leaving earth. n__n
I'll pray for you <3
God bless, keep up the good work <3
I’m not going to be one of those people that tells you to “get over it.” No matter the situation, no matter what we try and distract ourselves with, it’s still there, lingering. Even if we only flick a thought to it for a second, it travels with us for the rest of the day.
It is good to remember the hardships we’ve been through. But even better to move on with what we’ve learned. The pain of ending a long-term relationship on whatever basis is deep and all encompassing.
But don’t forget who will always love you, and who is always by your side, holding you in the depths of your pain. God will always love you Adam. No matter what.
“All praise and glory to Jesus Christ, to whom I owe everything.” He can get you through anything. Take heart, for He will always make you new. ^^
I’m praying for you, and I know many others are too. Hang in there, Adam.
Praying that you let God fill that desire in you.
London wasn’t BRILLIANT enough so you could write a blog about it?! It was AMAZING man, really inspiring. x
And hang on in there Adam!
x
Adam, thanks so much for posts like these! It’s so great to see you’re finally feeling better! I know its tough getting over break-ups, and I’m not going to pretend to know what you were going through after it happened, cause I don’t. But you continue to inspire fans to live life to the fullest no matter what, and for that I thank you so much because people need that type of thought pattern these days. Keep writing music Adam, this world needs your optimism.
Your Friend,
Laura :)
As hard as it is sometimes, it’s best to let go. I know you know that. :) And be encouraged, friend. When we completely surrender our lives to Christ, amazing, incredible, breath-taking things lie in store. As you remain faithful to Him, seek Him whole-heartedly, and pursue HIM, He’ll bring along the right one at the perfect timing…His timing. Until then, keep your eyes and focus completely on Him. It’s worth it. You’re loved, Adam, and you are in my prayers.
Stay strong.
Heartbreak is a pain in the neck. Ha. Get it? Because it’s heartbreak and it’s not the neck…..
And then there are also those relationships that never get past a certain friendship and you desperately wish they would. Or when you can never get up the courage to say something to that person, and then your chance slips away. Yeah, that hurts almost as bad as breakup. :(
Amen, brother.
I’ve never had my heart broken, except by the fear that someone I love WILL someday break my heart. And that’s crippling. How can you love when you’re terrified of something that is neither logical nor imminent?
You can’t.
So you pray, you hope, you move on, and, when you need to, God gives you His big old shoulder to cry on.
well im only 13 and have never been in a relationship so that made no sense to me. also what does schizophrenic mean? and id be happy if you were my first and only bf adam ;) I LEEEEEERVE YOOO! you sed the concert in dublin was the best night of your life. mine too <3
ps for a sec i thought it sed how to get over a hangover. even tho that doesnt make sense, how could i look like that/ wel it did to me. haha ok i needot stop tlaking ciao
Love that. good on you. it’s not easy.
i like the way this post ended, it’s one of my favourite.
There is always time for fear; it is best to let it grip us and let us remember life here is so short. We are all going to die and nothing any of us can do will matter in the next 50-500 years, let alone the long run.
I take what little happiness that can be eked from this life from the story of Gef the Mongoose and say to myself there can not be a God.
Thanks for writing this im trying to get over a breakup and this makes me feel better =D
Adam! You’re making me sad. Stop it!
Usually that’s ok but this week has been a really good week for me and I don’t want to be reminded of how depressed I was before, or think about what may come after.
I’ve been waiting for a post like this. But I have only realized that now.
The journey I have been on over the past 4 years torments me day and night. His ghosts are in every whisper of a dull memory creeping slowly back into my mind at the sight or smell of anything related to him. I know you will understand that.
I hardly ever reply on blogs but I guess today, right now, it feels like something new. I want simply to say thank you to you for allowing God to speak through you to me. Without sounding like a crazy fan girl, you inspire me Adam and I honestly can’t thank you enough for you being who you are, and for using your gifts and talents to bring glory to God.
There was a storm here today. The rain sounds nice against my bedroom windows. My heavy wings feel lighter.
Psalm 147:3
Aww now I think I do need you! :( that was such a sad post being as short as it was! Well at least you know how to get over things! :) I’m starting to think maybe you should get yourself your turtleneck and your bowl of cereal over to my house so we can talk! ;) now I’m in a pensive mood! Well thanks for sharing! :) please feel free to talk to me whenever you need to! Im pretty sure you don’t read these comments so you most likely will never email me but if you happen to read this please do!! <3 with lots of love- your sister in Christ.
Thank you.
That’s all I can say to you after reading this.
Dear Adam, how do you always know what to say?
Adam, I’m so happy for you :) after all as that quote goes, “Life is a gift, that’s why it’s called ‘the present’”
That was really encouraging Adam :)) thanx :)
Thank you Adam.. This is just what I needed right now. Distracting myself, and turning to the Lord, always helps a lot, and I guess I needed a reminder of that, so thank you once again.
God bless you :)
~Grace A.M.
Your blog makes me think that i’m not alone. I kinda feel like that right now, so its always nice to know somewhere in the world someone is going though the same thing.
Mucho Thanks.
=)
Adam, I hope you haven’t forgotten:
“When you’re on your own, a little opera goes a long way.”
Yeah, some crazy, adorable, musical, dorky, wise 25 year old man said that. But do you believe it?
Love always, Jem.
Way to go, Adam. Way to go. And, really, thank you. Thanks for this. I just kind of got over a similar thing and am slowly, but surely, healing from the harsh reality of the situation. It’s hard, but you’re right in that distraction helps… and so does trusting God to assist you in leaping over any hurdle and defeating any obstacle.
Onward and upward! :)
– Kellie
You can get through it Adam. Just keep your eyes Jesus. Always praying for you :)
I know how that feels exactly… I’m going trough that right now. I’m always trying to hide those feelings that I know I’ll probably lose to, so I do other things instead to get my mind off it. But you know what? You’re right. Try to forget the past and look at the new. I’m doing that too. I’m healing, but slowly and with time, and one day I’ll know that it won’t haunt me anymore.
I’ll continue to dream my fantasies and try to never give in to anxiety. You too Adam Young. I know you’re a very humble person and go through things everyone else does too. You’re real, and I hope you keep it that way.
PS. I like turtlenecks and watching out the window too. Plus… I love you!! So please stay the amazing way that you are and never change!
I can relate almost entirely to all of this post except for the turtleneck part, since I feel like I’m going to choke whenever I wear one. Even so, I have been in a situation quite similar to that you speak of and I tend to relieve myself of such memories in the same sort of fashion as you do. Gazing into the distance seems to be a magical cure for all sorts of heart aches.
~ Stephanie
If I could I’d be there sitting right next to eating a bowl filled half way with Honey Nut Cheerios, and cold milk, in my Christmas pajamas (’cause those are the warmest!) and a pair of toes socks.
Lol strange person, indeed that is me. But the main thing is to keep dreaming and keep your focus on Jesus.
Hope all is well :)
God Bless.
~laurianna
Nothing does it like cereal and a turtle neck. Aren’t distractions wonderful?
“It seems to me, if you have a bad taste in your mouth, you should spit it out.” – Amazing Grace
Yay for fuzzy turtlenecks! I have, like, no winter clothes. I have a little white hat with two little bear ears on top, but that’s about it. You look so cute in turtlenecks! In fact, you just look cute in general! (don’t tell my BF i said that…naw, he’ll understand ^^) ANYWAY…
I love how you put Christ into everything you sing. Keep up the good work, bro, and I’ll wait for the next album, whenever it may be!
Luv ur music,
Stella
Such a cozy and calm mental picture at the end! So glad you write this blog, Adam. When I go through tough times, your music is the distraction that helps me get through them. Thanks so much. :D
i have to agree with you 100%. I’ve struggled with anxiety from relationships and many other things throughout my life and sometimes you have to just shrug it aside and realize God has more planned for you than that!
Luke 12:22-26
God Bless :)
Well, I must say, though I love this post very much, I’m sure it must be an easier feat to distract yourself than it is for many people. Your life is rather . . . full-scheduled, might I say. ^^ But I do very much love the last paragraph of this post. Sends me into so many dreamy, fantastical places. I should write a story about that paragraph . . .
Thank you so much, Adam! For the inspiration, and for everything else you’ve helped me so much with. :)
God bless,
- Joel
I hardily agree with Joel Wyncott. That last paragraph! You can’t get much better than that!
I always enjoy a little rain, too.
Thanks again.
Harmony
yeah i agree with you, and when i do start dating and if something does go wrong (hoping it wont but it always does) i will keep this in mind. i love your posts ^^
Yeah. That’s pretty much accurate.
I distract myself by fiddling with my new G3 iMac…
Jefferson Aero Plane? Relient K? Anyone else catch the reference?
DUDE: I totally needed this. It’s like you read my mind. And what’s weird: I don’t believe in horoscope things, but mine from a couple days ago said something similar to this. Mind blown. Sneaky! We should be friends, bro.
Thanks…
Awwweh adam ! :(
its gonna be ok (:
All you fans love you ! <33333
& thank you you have explained in your blog what i have been thinking for a long time :)
again thank you ! <3
I know what you mean… we’ll get over it.. yeahhh :)
I have been thinking about that a lot over the weekend and I have learned the longer we hold onto the past and never let go we will never move forward in what God has for us. We are to trust Him and let go and let God. Personally I decided the past is the past. If the man I was still holding on to wants it then it’s his but my future belongs to God. He is the one Man I can trust. Jer.29:11-13
http://www.speculativefaith.com/2011/09/13/speculative-love-part-1-no-greater-love/#comment-19138
Adam, I just thought you should know..
I HAVE THIS INCREDIBLE URGE TO GIVE YOU A MASSIVE BEAR HUG.
Keep writing. You make weekdays bearable.
Oh, and by the way, cool jeans. ;)
Please check out my blog: http://orangeintheovercast.blogspot.com/
Thanks!
Madd :)
adam im sorry that youre going through this :( reading this post spoke to me especially the part about not dwelling in the past, i remember that i met a nice girl in a college class once and always wished that we could continue seeing each other ever since, ive always felt sad about that, yet i feel better knowing that i can relate to you, and all the awesome hootowls are so nice
thanks adam
=’)
“Life is way too short to worry about the past, and I for one, don’t have time for anxiety.”
Amen and AMEN!
I’ve dealt with the same things and found the same freedom and liberation from my own daydreams through, who would have guessed it, whats going on around me.
Welcome to the land of the living! :)
Beautifully said. Really battling this right now; it’s just so hard to let go and move on.
I need a fuzzy turtleneck.
I totally agree with this. There seems to be so much ahead of us in our lives and it would be a pity to stop there to look back at our pasts. I, too, had a hard time letting go of the past. Everything seems so perfect then, but we know we have to move on. We tend to always distract ourselves with our busy daily routines to forget this pain and the feeling of missing. A very inspiring post and all the best in life!
Missing feels like a sad spot in my life, but missing means I love him. :)
Best regards! Adam :)
I haven’t really been in enough relationships to have one of these ones that constantly pervades my thoughts – I’m not the kind of girl that finds it easy to relate to boys. But when I do, I’ll remember this advice.
Turtleneck sweaters are the best. :3 And rain is always so much easier appreciated when you’re not out in it. My personal favourite is snuggling into my quilt in bed when the rain is pounding down outside.
nawww Adam, its amazing….. and yes, i need you…. :’)
I listen to your song “tidal wave” to get over someone, it’s a really lovely song, adam, thank you so much for that, it makes me feel brave.
of course we NEED you,baby :) Cheer up,and you’re right,life’s too short to be serious.Love to sit and hear the sounds of raining with you !
I read the post at least 2O or more times.
Adam,
Why are you so cute and yet so real?
-Brenne
Adam,
I’m a pastor in Nagoya, Japan. If possible I would like to talk to you about your upcoming trip to Japan. I have some thoughts about how you could have an even greater impact here. Please shoot me an email.
Mike
Oh, Adam!! :)
You’re such an amazing person. A celebrity, and yet… REAL.
Your blogs don’t just help you, you know. :D
They help all of us too!
And I know that I’m not the only one who visits here in between blogs just to read back on old favorites. ;)
Have a wonderful week, full of blessings!!
Your sister in Christ,
HP
I love you, Adam Young. You are such an encouragement to me. I was stuck on a past relationship for years.. It got so ridiculous. I would try to forget him and I thought I had until I started dreaming about him. I could not escape him…until I met a guy who was amazing enough to make the past seem like only a blurry memory from my childhood. I no longer think of what could have been with that past relationship, only what will be with my present one. [: It seems like you would never be lonely, being Adam Young & all…but I know how it feels to have people telling you that there are plenty of other people out there when there’s one person that you have already spent so much time and effort into getting comfortable with, sharing your secrets with, and basically falling in love with.. Being an introvert, like you, I can only give so much of myself to people. It really is hard. I love reading your blogs. You are an amazing person, and I know God is going to bless you. You make me want to be a better person. And your music…… I can’t even describe how much it helps me & gets me through some days I couldn’t get through otherwise. Thank you for sharing your heart with us, because your heart is ohhh so lovelyy. [: You are an angel and a gift from God. <3 –Anna
Adam,
“One night I dreamed I was walking
along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky. In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.
Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there was one only.
This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints, so I said to the Lord,
“You promised me Lord, that if I followed You, You would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there has only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed You most, have You not been there for me?”
The Lord replied, “The years when you have seen only one set of footprints, my child, is when I carried you.”
-Mary Stevenson
Words that hold truth and love! I pray tha this will repair those torn edges of yours, Adam.
Your dear friend in Christ,
Melissa
I’ve never been in a relationship before, but this does remind me of a theory I have. Once you date, you can’t get over the breakup without meeting someone else. Then the cycle repeats. Unless the “time heals all wounds” thing works for you, then it’s all good.
I agree with Anna’s comment. While I haven’t been in a relationship yet (I’m waiting for a guy that is actually worth dating and so far that guy hasn’t entered into my life. It takes patience, but, hey, it’s worth it :D), I can still see why a breakup with someone that you were once crazy over is difficult to overcome. The person used to be your #1 priority in your life (second to God, though) and now they can’t be in your life anymore. But I’m very glad to know that you are getting stronger and stronger everyday (ptL!). The Lord’s timing is always the best. May the Lord bless you much more and always keep Him #1!
P.S: during my 3-D animation class, I’ve been listening to your Port Blue music. It helps me get into my creative mood :) wish your talent wasn’t so underated! Keep making wordless music :)
Thank you for posting that Adam, it really helped me sort out my thoughts. Overwhelming sense of mental fragmentation, no kidding!
God bless and keep creating your awesome music and we love you!!!
Geez!! the right words at the right time!
how do you do that Adam?? r u a psychic or something?
Thank you :D
Aw, Adam, it’s blog posts like this that remind me just how human and relateable you really are. I hope you get past this:) If it helps, listen to your earlier, happier songs to get you feeling better. I find “Tennis Elbow” really helps. Stay wonderful, and I hope I get to meet you someday. We could learn so much from each other.
Dear Adam,
I am so glad you are feeling better! Way to shake the past and focus on the present. I have never, thankfully, experienced what you felt, but I can imagine how hard it must be. I’ve been praying for God to guide you, and to help you continue to be a great reflection of Him and His love. He was obviously listening (although I knew He was anyway.) I’m glad to see He’s guided you out of the darkness of remorse and regret from that relationship that was clouding your mind. :) May He continue to bless you, and I sincerely hope to see you (for the second time this year) at your concert in Waukesha, WI!
Love,
Madeline
Adam,
I’ve never been through anything close to what you’ve been through, so I really can’t say that I know what you are talking about. However, I can say that you are doing such an amazing job… You are moving on in just the right way, in just the right time. You are doing an amazing job getting over it, and I couldn’t be any prouder of you, Adam. You truly are beautiful, inside and out. Thank you for sharing what is on your mind, and what is in your heart.
~Faith~
@Joelle
I did not catch the reference until you pointed it out! And I thought I was a Relient K fan… Well, the part of the song I always wanted to listen to was the random dream part at the end, so I guess I forgot about the rest. “cause when it’s colder, I feel much better when I cry on my own shoulder I’ll just throw on a sweater and go, and I’ll go to undergo a change of heart, a change of clothes and when I’m home, I think I’ll go eat cereal and stare out the window…” :) One of my favorites, thanks for pointing it out!
Thank you, it was good to hear your voice today. Melancholy reigns and I want to hide from my reality. Unfortunately, distraction hasn’t helped today. And so I sit and think. I’ll just sit quietly at your kitchen window if you wouldn’t mind too much.
p.s. it just started raining here.
I was so moved when I read your post Adam.. It’s kind of pessimism but I don’t really feel gloomy because you express your thoughts in such an amazing way. You are such an amazing person ADAM. I will always ♥ you :)
I have to say that I always love your posts, they make me feel so much better when I read them!
I’m a college student majoring in Computer Engineering and Minoring in Graphic Design so in the latter I created a picture for the song “Angels” Please have a look :) its at both my blogs, the art one was just created for all of my designs based on your songs and I haven’t put them all on there yet. :(
mumfordandpuns.tumblr.com
and
idleHoursArt.tumblr.com
I hope you like it.
<3
I look at it this way, if we all treat each other in all purity like brothers and sisters in Christ as it says in i think 1st Timothy, then we won’t have any problems, right? I know, we all screw up, I’ve got a couple wounds myself, but one of the best ways to get self control is to exercise it. But Jesus heals everything and now He is my ALL, who needs a human “boy/girl friend”? Sure, it feels nice and makes you feel special, but we all know how it ends up. So, stick with the One who will NEVER dump you, ever, Jesus Christ.
everything in ur blog make me feel great! thank u for writing, and letting us 2 read.
Amen Brother! So true! I was just starting to do that and then I was like, I’m gonna distract myself by reading owlcityblog! :D Love your music btw. Just thought I would add that on. It seems like the thing to do XD
Dear Adam,
I want to say thank you. You have forever changed the way I look at life, and more importantly, music. I’ll admit, life was never anything special to me before I heard you. It was just, well, life. Now, I take an extremely positive outlook on life. Not the Christian one, but a positive one nevertheless. You give me a glimpse into a world I’m not part of, an altogether unique and positive world that says life is amazing. I think, though, I am slowly becoming part of that world. So I thank you for that.
I remember hearing Fireflies and saying “I like this, but it’s so different. Does it mean anything?” Then my friend encouraged me to listen to Vanilla Twilight. It was beautiful, and from then I was hooked. I wanted to find more of your music. Throughout the rest of that year, I started to find more and more of your songs- Rainbow Veins, Sunburn, Hot Air Balloon, Panda Bear, Hello Seattle, The Saltwater Room, The Bird and The Worm. By Christmas of 2010 I owned all of your CDs. And now, nearly a year later, here I am. I have all but 3 of your songs and have memorized the rest. I used to think all music was the pop that I heard on the radio, which steadily got worse and worse. I had all but given up on music by the time Fireflies rose to popularity. Now, I listen to so much of it. Music is the dominating force in my life, actions, and thoughts. But Owl City, that is the seams that hold me together. Without you I would fall apart and collapse into the meaningless black cauldron of high school. I wouldn’t be who I am together. I would be just another wave in the sea of faces.
But please, I suppose I can’t discuss Owl City without bringing this up. I am not a Christian. However, I will tolerate Christianity up to a certain point. Please, don’t make all your music pure hardcore Christian. If there’s anything history class has taught me, it’s that there’s so much more to life than just religion. I don’t mind your few religious songs. There are maybe what, 4 of them? I’m ok with that. I happen to enjoy most of them. But please just leave your music as diverse as it is.
Another thing is, I love your Sky Sailing album. It is absolutely amazing, and I would go as far as saying it may even be BETTER than Owl City. I would absolutely love it if, and I’m sure most fans would strongly agree, you released more music under Sky Sailing. Just one little album, please? It would mean the world (and probably the moon, too…)
I love you, and everything you do, and I am a much more unique and moralized individual for it. You are my sky, reminding me that there’s more than the earth beneath my feet. Maybe someday I can meet you, and tell you all this in person. But for now, all I can do is click submit and hope. So thank you, endless thanks to you from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for playing such a key role in my settling into who I am. I am proud to look up to as great a person as you.
With the greatest love and respect,
Jess
I’m sorry. The only thing that I can say, which I hope will comfort you in your times of trouble, is that God is with you. Even when all else fails, He will never let you down. Man is fickle, changing from day to day. But God NEVER changes. Hebrews 13:8 states that Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever. Don’t be afraid to rely on Him, brother. He will always be there for you and will always listen to your prayers. Take heart in His promises, and remember that God will never leave us or forsake us. I am praying for you and am grateful to know that the God I serve is the same God who will guide you in this difficult time. Soli Deo Gloria! :)
I always find myself withdrawing from reality and into my own dream world. But your blogs always give good insight into why you can’t always be dreaming all the time and things are beautiful on the outside world once you see through the troubles.
Also: can I marry you? Fuzzy turtleneck and all ;D
thanks adam. I needed this. More than even I realized I did.
Cheer up Cheer up! :)
I loved anything you wrote, you’re adcawkubfcstwdat ! I can’t describe it… I can’t wait to see your show at my lovely country, Ina! :D
Don’t worry; One day you’ll feel like it was all a bad dream.
Thanks adam! I love the new website design!
Dear Adam, whatever u r going through at this period,do not feel down.Coz if u do,thousands of fans will fail to attain much pleasure in my life.Remenber,we are with u !
well said. MAN! you know, you should SO write a book! you have an ausome use of ur language! i would have suggested u be a poet but u r already that. so try writing! ur vocab is extraordinary!!
Well, Actually I can really relate to your blog!
It’s like how i think of a certain matter
and in the end of the day, although there’s a scar leaving into my mind.. i can’t barely fight to the fact that it’s a part of my past.
God Bless Always Mr. Adam Young :)
I don’t know anything else to say but, Praise The Lord! You, your music, and your writing have all been such blessings in my life. :) I don’t like to see you sad.. :( I’m so happy to know you’re feeling better! As always, thank you for sharing your thoughts and heart with us, Adam. You are such an amazing person, from the inside, out. :) I really hope to meet you someday.
Thoughts & prayers,
Elisha
I know how you feel. I’m thinking about you.
:D Smile because you’re the deer in my headlights!
<333
Lorelei
PS-I wrote you something…
http://orangeintheovercast.blogspot.com/2011/07/dearest-adam.html
Not really sure how to reply, but i think that moving on is the best thing.
LOVE the new background by the way ;D
@Lorelei- I don’t know if the comment I posted on Orange in the Overcast saved. What it said is we should post the URL to the blog a bazillion times in the comments so Adam would be like “What in the world?” and the curiosity would get the best of him and he’d read it! I bet he’d make a blog about, or at least mention it. You definitely deserve it.
let it go, let it flow
I need a long time to get over it, over a year, but I made it ;)
I don’t want to waste my time to think about things that even don’t matter for me anymore
Hey Adam, I don’t know if you’ll see this and my comment is somewhat unrelated to your post but I just wanted to let you know that your song “Galaxies” has really been helping me in my walk with God this past week.
One of my English classes has been dealing with Hercules and other gods/goddesses, and my astronomy class is dealing with the creation of the universe apart from God. It’s caused me to feel a little confused and lost. Your lyrics have really meant a lot to me these first few weeks of school.
Thank you. I pray the Holy Spirit will fill you up with wonderful dreams.
And I hope this doesn’t seem patronizing, but if you need help distracting yourself, try thinking about, helping, and serving others. I know when memories try to hold me back, this always helps me move forward.
God bless.
it’s amazing, whenever I need someone, that someone far away. . .
@Jess, there is a lot more to life than religion, but that is not what Adam is all about. I encourage you to look into this more.
What Adam and so many of us who are fans of his have is a PERSONAL relationship with Jesus Christ. This deep, loving bond with the living God and religion are two completely different things. Organized religion is man’s attempt at interpreting God’s divine plan and then oftentimes imposing their man-made rules on people. Having a personal relationship with God is turning your life over to Him and allowing His light and goodness to work in and through you on a level that no mortal being can touch.
As a believer, Adam walks a fine line. Believe me, he is not consciously trying to proselytize, he just can’t help that he is so in love with God that it shows in his music sometimes.
sorry to hear that .
Goodbye now to the breakdown between thought, emotion and behavior. Farewell to faulty perception and inapt actions and feelings. Goodbye to withdrawal from reality and personal relationships into fantasy and delusion. Good riddance to an overwhelming sense of mental fragmentation!
Oh, Adam. It’s like you live in my mind.
Come to Wisconsin SOON, because I know you are! :D
Didn’t you hear me? I’m FINE with that. He can believe what he wants. What I meant was some fans have requested a worship album. I would not appreciate that. I do, however, like most of his religious tracks. I like all of his music. He’s religious, I’m not, and that’s ok. I just don’t want him to be a COMPLETELY and TOTALLY 100% religious artist. I asked for diversity, not complete dedication to one side or the other.
Even when I compromise, someone disagrees…
I’ll that i have to say is that, if it’s meant to be, it’ll eventually happen.
@Maddy
You’re an Owl City fan from Wisconsin, too?! That’s awesome. And we share a nickname. How strange in an absolutely awesome way. Hope you can go to the concert at Carroll College, it should be great! :)
This is awesome, and sooo very true. :)
@Raelynn
Wanna be best friends? LOL Thank you so much. It really does mean a lot!
Hey guys! I was searching on Youtube the other day, and I found this kid who does AMAZING (adamazing?) piano covers, and he did some of a few Owl City songs. I would seriously reccomend checking them out. Here’s his Deer In the Headlights cover:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBiOOWprgK4
I love reading your blogs Adam. I think we have a lot in common(: Check out my blog! http://www.saaraajuddha.blogspot.com
Glad you posted that. Never been in a relationship before but I do know the frustration of never getting the courage to approach someone, and it’s hard…but what can you do? :) I hope it gets better for you!
Mr. Young,
Your song with Ronald Reagan really inspired me to do my school work/homework.
Encouragement is always to be found in your songs.
Thanks so much for that,
Hannah
TALKING MARSHMALLOWS!!!!!!!! ^_^
Ok then Adam, I need you, well, I need your advice more or less. I am in band, only I HATE my band teacher!! I’m a floutist, and my mom always tells me I’m great at it. So maybe I am. But, my band teacher is the reason that I want to quit band. In band class, some of my other friends are floutists and I sit next to them, and when we hadn’t practiced for a song we had to play out loud one day, he told us we stunk!! Then, the clarinets played the same song after the flutes did and, apparently, they were heavenly while we stunk!! And I need some advice from an amazing musician, so; Adam, could you give me some much needed advice? Adam, I’m not kidding when I say you’re an amazing musician. I love you Adam and please read this!! God bless you Adam. Keep being the amazing musician you are!!! <3 ^_^
Much love,
Kayla <3 ^_^
*GASP* It’s monday! where’s the blog?
awww. *HUGS* I’m praying for you that you will meet her whom God have chosen for you,Adam!
P/S: You’re my inspiration.
Loves,
Jobina =)
I know what you’re talking about! I really like reading your blog, you are such an inspiration for me. Last Thursday I stood right in front of you in Tilburg, don’t think you noticed me anyway haha.
Hope we will meet again.
Love, Lonneke
adam, i want to thank you with all my heart. my best friend just went through a situation related to your last post. It was so bad that she was considering suicide. she came over to my house yesterday, and while we were on the computer, i checked your blog. She was immediately reading your writing, and burst into tears. She told me that it was like you were actually there, you described it so perfestly. she then told me she was no longer going to even consider killing herself. so i want to thank you for saving my friend from the worst choice possible
Thanks for the advice. I have never imagined to go through this situation.
@ Kayla
Ha, I play the flute too. I would say you should stay in band, because you shouldn’t let the teacher get to you :)
haha. i play the flute as well. its a truly amazing instrument. my band teacher yells @ us and explains to us how we’ll never succeed in life. not really, he just doesnt believe in us as a band. it’s a little strange that we’re steering away from the subject adam posted, isnt it?
Poor Adam…God bless you. I hope you feel better soon.
Forgetting is hard.
Remembering is harder.
You’ll find, though, that forgetting it all is a thousand times sweeter then reliving it.
Unless you’re me.
The memories help me go numb, and erase the world around me. But maybe, just maybe, I’ll try to forget.
Please don’t let this mean what I think. Have you abandoned your imagination? The most unusual phenomenon…
Don’t abandon your violet angel.
Concerned friend,
Ivy
Dear Adam Young, i’m one of you big fans from Indonesia :)
I have so many things i want to say to you, but dang! my english is really bad ._.
it’s sad that many things only could be expressed through words, and language.
I just want to show you a sketch i made my own, dunno if it’s looks like you or not xD
http://i54.tinypic.com/iglqi0.jpg
PS: i really screwed up, knowing i couldn’t have chance to see your concert at jakarta. the tickets sold out in one day!!! D:
T_________T
Good luck for everything you do, God bless your way
Love, Cecilia
@listeningowl
I suppose, but I guess that’s the way it goes (O,~) winky owl! Inspiring comment by the way, it’s good to hear what Adam has done for people.
Jess, thanks for your advice!! ^_^
*hugs* Thanks for that.
Relationships are such a tough thing. Especially romantic ones… the ones that don’t work out, that is. At times when I’m hurting or crushing hard on someone, I often wonder why the Lord created it because it’s all consuming sometimes and just flat out FRUSTRATING! Because you can’t control your emotions and feelings. But every time I feel that way, and in the pit of “Ihatefeelingthiswaymakeitstop” I stop and think “just take a deep breath and remember that, in time, the pain will ease.” And it is through these low, tough times (be it a broken relationship or not) that the Lord teaches us the most and draws us closer to Himself. For in those times we see that His grace is sufficient for us and that “His power is made perfect in our weakness” (2 Cor 12:9). Praise be to Him <3
Always so romantic
im 13 and i read ur posts all the time, and im sure there are other like me. so could you please make ur posts more understandable?? you sound like an english teacher!!!!!!!!!
Adam, I know just how you feel! Today my emotions have been topsy-turvy. It was raining hard and I felt all twisted up on the inside. But when the rain stopped, the sun came out and lit upon a beautiful rainbow! I felt like God was speaking to me. So if you ever look at a rainbow, remember that God cares about you and knows the depths of your feelings.
Oh, I wanted to add that I like that last part about you sitting there in your fuzzy turtle-neck. It really connects to me that even though you are this big song writer and stuff, you are still human.
God will stay by your side through everything! When I feel sad about something, I like to sing. Is that kind of like what you do? I love your song Vanilla Twilight. It is the most touching song I have ever heard.
I love how you are so humble, even though you have a unique, talented voice.
Owl City Forever :)
Hmm, Adam, i wonder, if i had i chance to meet you, i’d be scared out of my mind, but i’d say yes, i’d say, HECK YEAH!!! but i’d be terrified, what if your not as glamerous as i thought, and what if you are? what would i do then, what would happen? nothing. i’d just still be your number one fan of course, but nothing would change. nothing. i guess my insanity is overreaching, but what if we’re nothing alike? and end up hating each other? or we fall inlove, and become hollywoods greatest couple, (p.s. i’d hate that, being fameous) or we both die of shock, because… well, i dunno, anything… yesh, i better take my pills,
Uh, hi, its me, the dork who is insan, and i just.. i just wish you were reading this. cause i need you to. sometimes, i listen to your music, and i cry, tears of regret, remorse, cheerfulness, spazyness, happyness, and i let it all go, cause i know theres a human out there who explores through space and time and worlds that await with story telling, and magic, and maybe even madness. oh, adam i wish, i wish. the light reflects of the grass blades, and thats why i wait outside, i’ll talk to ghosts and hear thier stories, while i wish. i will see you one day. and that day, the skys will open, in a burst of a bueatiful explosion! but, alas, for now, i wish.
I tend to not know what the definition of a lot of words mean and Adam tends to know many definitions of many BIG, LONG,and CONFUSING words. Ok…If you didn’t know what the word SCHIZOPHRENIC means, it means mentally ill. THANK YOU FOR TEACHING ME NEW WORDS ADAM!! I NOW FEEL SMART!
But what do when the hurt from a past relationship doesn’t go away after 2 years? Or when you see both of them together and you’re still sad and lonely? Or when u realize they are probably gonna get married and u might never stop loving the other person? No ones probably gonna read this comment cos its a little too long…hold the little. I think I’m probably depressed. Not surprised. Every one wld be too if your parents think you’re good for nothing. I’m just 21 and my parents think I’m gonna be alone forever or I’m never gonna get married. My mum thinks I’m ugly but she’ll never say it that way. She’ll say, “why don’t you do ur hair that way? Why don’t u use more make up? Wear a skirt. Dress like my daughters friend. You dress like a house maid. No wonder you have no friends” being at home really makes me sad. And I get scared that I might actually be alone forever. But I can never kill myself. So I’m just gonna live my sad life as it is. Dunno what to do. Don’t have any friends to confide in. Just wanted to get it off my chest cos I’m not gonna cry today
I’ll be fine……………………
@Ryane I’ll love you, i’ll be your friend, till’ your heart finds a home, i won’t let you feel alone. please don’t cry, but if you do, my shoulder is open to you.
@gleaming in the glow. Thanks. Your comment means a lot to me. A lot!!! :)
Oh man, this might be just what I needed. My best guy friend (Michael, who i’m in love with) just started dating my best friend. I’m acting supportive but it’s killing me inside. I feel so selfish wanting them to break up. All my other friends want me and Michael to go out because they say were cute together, but now there’s not really any thing I can do.
Adam, you always seem to know what to say. Your words of wise wisdom definitly come from the heart. Thank you.
-Katie the polar bear girl
Can I just tell you that you write absolutely beautifully. I’m hooked with each word and think I just developed a self-invented writer’s-crush.
Can’t help but feel warm and fuzzy when reading this. Your stuff always makes me feel a little less depressed and a little more happy. BEST. CELEB. EVER = Adam Young.
Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrows but only empties today of its strength. – Spurgeon
We all have the good days and the bad days. I don’t think any of us completely “get over it,” but the wounds can get a little better with time, circumstances, and setting.
Then, of course, writing and music are some of the best means of catharsis available.
I think we get filled up with “it”–anxiety, fear, bad memory–and then we gotta write music or words words words…and then wait until we fill again and empty out again.
Hey Adam,
Bro, you are so freaking right. Dude…Love is hurtful. It’s more broken than the heart that it hurts. Love is a poison, its a tool. I wish i never fell in love. It leaves you broken, heartless, hurting and confused. Asking questions like: What did i do wrong? Why? Is it my fault?
I wish we never felt love, it hurts. Sometimes its ok, like…i dunno man. it hurts.
I tried my best. I was there for the person i loved, what did i get in return, a broken heart, a hurting soul. What did i do wrong? I didnt lie, i didnt cheat. God it sucks. Hang in there bro. ok.
Jess.
I know what you mean. Sometimes you feel really hurt or just upset about the situation and that its hard that you give and they just take it…It just shows also how people just take advantage of you as well. Sometimes I question what did I do or just simply go back and realized that the relationship simply wasn’t going to work out. Love is hard and hurtful, but we need to get past the moments that hurt us the most and go through life the best we can!
Consider reading “When God Writes Your Loves Story” by eric and leslie Ludy. It will rock your world i’m telling you!
I liked this guy. I wasn’t in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, we were just friends…sort of. I knew him he knew me. When I passed him I said hello and go all red in the face. When I said a line from a video he’d recognize it. We would laugh about it for a few moments and then talk about other things that relate to that. I have no idea if he was in a relationship but I would still like him. But then he left our school. I was heartbroken. My chance of love…gone. I eventually got over it but it still haunts me whenever I think about it. He wasn’t hot nor ugly. Just plain cute. Cute hair, Cute clothes, Cute personality. I have to be shy, espeacially around guys. If they ask me out I turn mean and say no firmly incase a person will laugh at me. It may make me feel powerful on the outside but hurt on the inside. I miss you Anthony. <3
Im behind readying your entries, however, here is my mere response to such a heartwrenching, nostalgic post:
As Elizabeth in “Eat Pray Love” says of ex-lovers, send them light and love everytime you think about them…and then release the thought.
Look out of your bay window, over the steam of your too-hot cup of coffee and think of them fondly. Enjoy the memories and then move on.
You have to think: is she worth my sentiments? Now that she is gone. If you are wanting to move on, to not think of her, the way she made you feel, the way her hair fell in her face when she laughed…give it to God. He will take it from you.
But what about those unexpected mments when it hits you like a sledge hammer in the stomach?
Sorry, but I just had this experiance last night. And, two years later, it’s still the small things in life that hit, and I wonder where that person is and what they’re doing.
But then again… after I took my eyes off the halloween candy I realized must be throwing my one-time friend into fits of joy (while it reviles me) and I focused on paying for my Yoplait… I didn’t think about it again until now.
So, I guess you’re right. :) Thank you.
“there’s always ONE relationship that harrows you like an old wound that refuses to heal. It haunts your mind, frequents your thoughts — maybe because you let it, maybe because you’re reluctant” this is exactly what I’ve just been through these past two years. You put it nicely here.
I love listening to the rain. It’s such a beautiful rhythm…
This has helped me so much. I recently went through a hard breakup (10 months) and found it difficult to move on. The memories would flood over me, and I would often cry myself to sleep. This continued for a long time, practically three weeks, and I slipped back into a depression I’d recovered from a long time ago. I started the long climb back up the hill to happiness, and it’s had a lot of obstacles. I’ve gone through a lot of emotions lately about our relationship, still being very close best friends with him, and although I told myself multiple times that I had to move on, I had to look forward to the future, I couldn’t break the spell he had me under. We fought last night about him not coming to an event we were both going to, instead opting to go to a dance with a girl he liked. I wasn’t mad about him going with the girl, but it upset me that he would choose her (whom he’s liked for only a few days) instead of going to something we’ve been planning for a while. When I thought there was no hope in me ever getting over him, I read this. I can’t even explain the feelings I had as I read this. It was like someone finally just *got* what I felt. I reread it a few more times, and I realised I was crying with relief. I felt like a great weight was lifted, like I was no long suffocating under this relationship that was doomed. I still read over this, smiling as I do. THIS is why I love you, Adam. These little posts that hold such a powerful message. I can’t even explain it.
In other words, thank you. So much.
-GirlwithaSecret
I agree with you Adam, but sometimes you can’t distract yourself lol
<3 Agreed. Much love from me and your fans, Adam <3 <3 <3
You wrote what I exactly feel these days. Thanks much brother.
Love your blue jean.
Well this week our school is having a dance. I have had a crush on this boy ever since he was in the same grade as me. I knew he had liked me, but now, he hasn’t asked me. He has asked other girls. I think he thought that I liked another boy because I overheard him talking about how I said no when the other boy asked me to the dance, and he was saying it was a sign. So I am still waiting in anitcipation for him to ask me to the dance which is this Friday, also my birthday!
Oh my gosh. Been feeling that way today. I feel like you read my mind.
I have to look things up sometimes reading your blog, which hopefully doesn’t make me dumb, but just means you’ve got a good vocabulary (makes sense since you’re a lyricist & older than me). Anyway, I looked up the defenition of schizophrenic. I KNOW WHAT TYPE OF COMPUTER YOU HAVE!!! =)
I have always loved the sound of rain on the windows. Favorite sound (maybe 3-way tie with laughter & music).
I am having a terrible time in letting go of an broken relationship. I look at Adam’s posting for encouragement when I feel particularly down.
Words cannot describe how much I needed this, thank you with all my heart x
I needed to hear this too. Thanks, man.
I’m assuming during the period of time you wrote this you were probably in the same boat as I am in now…….Thanks for that made me find lost hope <3